(Un) Sustainable Lightweight
Living requires patience. Love, much more. I reminded the theory of Liquid
Love (the
fragile, fearful and ephemeral love of our time). And I remember that, by the
time I did a thorough research, I
predicted an improvement from the liquidity of relationships. I thought that, at some point, the picture would change
due to an inevitable hangover of so much
lack of consistency.
In the midst of the mess of my boxes with cutouts, pictures, and pages of books, I sat down to read some excerpts
and reflect on it so I could write for you, dear reader (and never underestimate the depth of the reflections that
arise in the midst of epiphanies within
those moments we are detached from the
material world, focused on our thoughts and plans. We have never been so “liquid”.
When did we unlearn how to love?
To love someone is not to jump off on the first problem (regardless of its
magnitude). Love requires care, growth,
tolerance, commitment, empathy. We lost the patience to deal with the other − one with a life baggage completely different from ours, one with an inner life that we do not control, with his or hers
own wishes. Too difficult, we prefer to stay in the safety of our individuality, of our usual and non-threatening
solitude, so we
can deal with the issues or just play down the
rug without anyone interfering. In a relationship, when a problem arises, it is as if we
are dealing with an internet text that is too long , with which you lose your patience in the middle and
jump to another one faster, simpler and more objective, so you can move on to
another one soon enough.
You cannot waste
time getting deeper, stressing, so you what do you do? We live in a world
where so many are lazy to love, so many are lost
− as Bauman says − in the “unsustainable lightness
of sex and common life”. I find it a very sad insight. It is through challenges that the other – by simply exercising his otherness − brings us to discover
new capacities, new sides of ourselves, new visions of the world, our own
trajectories and traumas. I expect "a new
beginning, filled with fine, elegant and sincere
people, with the ability to say more yes than not"
Time flies, amore. And outside, there is a beautiful sunlight waiting on
us.
Written by G. Colombo
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